Friday, December 30, 2005
The Dating Game 拍拖遊戲
While checking my online email, I came across a dating article that caught my eye. It describes the 5 women that every guy has to date:
#1 The older woman
Mature women have been places, have seen things, and have sophistication and wisdom. Older women know who they are and what they want. Spend time with one and you'll gain a terrific perspective on life.
#2 The guy's girl
Every guy needs to experience that rare breed of gal who looks and talks like a woman, but loves sports, beer, and action flicks. The guy's girl is often so similar to you that you forget to censor yourself around her--a good thing because it causes you to be more comfortable around women in general.
#3 The free spirit
Always stopping to smell the roses, she's totally creative, spiritual, spontaneous, and she relies more on instinct and inspiration than reason and good planning. Sometimes men need a free spirit to fly into our lives and shake us free of our rigid planning. A woman like this can tap a man's creativity in ways no one else has. She shows him not everything has to be perfect or planned.
#4 The brainy chick
Guys tend to go for looks rather than brains. But a sharp woman can keep your mind from turning to putty, can help you appreciate all facets of a woman, and can even handle those times in your life when you don't know it all.
#5 The seductress
Every man fantasizes about dating a girl who has a healthy libido and is extremely creative in bed. The good news is that such girls actually exist, and if you date one, you'll be a much better man for it. Every guy needs to get this type of girl out of his system because he'll quickly realize that sex alone cannot sustain a relationship.
So how does this relate to me? Having dated very little, I didn't experience the above women through dating. And I haven't experienced them thorough my wife because she doesn't fit any of the five types. Yeah, she's a few days older than me, but that doesn't qualify for #1. If I was pressed to pick the type that she most resembled, it probably would be #5. But that's more because she responded to my appetite, not because she initiated things.
Thinking about this now, I feel somewhat left out. Will I ever get a chance to make up for lost time and to experience any of the above types of women? Only time will tell.
To give equal time for my female readers, here are the 5 guys that every girl has to date:
#1 The older man
There comes a time in every guy's life when he's no longer interested in beer parties, video games, and phrases like "getting laid." In short, a man becomes a man, which is why you should see what an older guy is all about. It's not because he could be a sugardaddy and shower you with gifts. The real perk of dating an older guy is his worldliness and wisdom, which is bound to rub off on you. Because he's had more life experience and has been through more than younger guys, he can play something of a teacher role.
#2 The starving artist
These dudes are not going to take you to fancy restaurants or even pay your half of the dinner bill. Money, nice meals, and material goods don't mean squat to this guy--and that's exactly why you'll have an incredible time once he opens your eyes to life's simple pleasures.
#3 The metrosexual
He may be better dressed and more recently manicured than you. Not only will you reap the obvious benefits of dating a guy like this (by being able to borrow his expensive shampoos), but you'll get a chance to live a happenin' life. These guys will take you to the hottest clubs and the coolest clothing stores. His style may well rub off on you, making you a stronger player on the social and professional fields.
#4 The bad boy
This rebel lives on his own terms and is not about to apologize for them. Hang with him for a while, and you'll learn why being bad can feel so good and how to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. By being with him, you can learn to look deep inside yourself for what's truly important, rather than just accepting what your parents or friends think is the proper path for you.
#5 The nice guy
He never makes you feel insecure or uncertain, never plays hard to get, never makes you doubt how he feels about you. A woman won't be used to the frequency and consistency of affection nice guys give, since most other guys who are playing the dating game don't do that. Once you've had the good stuff (a guy who calls when he says he will; a guy who wants to see you more as he gets to know you), you won't stand for anything less. But just because a guy is nice doesn't necessarily mean that he is Mr. Right. There has to be romantic chemistry, too.
OK, which of the five guy types do I most resemble? Any thoughts, girls? ¶ 7:58 PM
#1 The older woman
Mature women have been places, have seen things, and have sophistication and wisdom. Older women know who they are and what they want. Spend time with one and you'll gain a terrific perspective on life.
#2 The guy's girl
Every guy needs to experience that rare breed of gal who looks and talks like a woman, but loves sports, beer, and action flicks. The guy's girl is often so similar to you that you forget to censor yourself around her--a good thing because it causes you to be more comfortable around women in general.
#3 The free spirit
Always stopping to smell the roses, she's totally creative, spiritual, spontaneous, and she relies more on instinct and inspiration than reason and good planning. Sometimes men need a free spirit to fly into our lives and shake us free of our rigid planning. A woman like this can tap a man's creativity in ways no one else has. She shows him not everything has to be perfect or planned.
#4 The brainy chick
Guys tend to go for looks rather than brains. But a sharp woman can keep your mind from turning to putty, can help you appreciate all facets of a woman, and can even handle those times in your life when you don't know it all.
#5 The seductress
Every man fantasizes about dating a girl who has a healthy libido and is extremely creative in bed. The good news is that such girls actually exist, and if you date one, you'll be a much better man for it. Every guy needs to get this type of girl out of his system because he'll quickly realize that sex alone cannot sustain a relationship.
So how does this relate to me? Having dated very little, I didn't experience the above women through dating. And I haven't experienced them thorough my wife because she doesn't fit any of the five types. Yeah, she's a few days older than me, but that doesn't qualify for #1. If I was pressed to pick the type that she most resembled, it probably would be #5. But that's more because she responded to my appetite, not because she initiated things.
Thinking about this now, I feel somewhat left out. Will I ever get a chance to make up for lost time and to experience any of the above types of women? Only time will tell.
To give equal time for my female readers, here are the 5 guys that every girl has to date:
#1 The older man
There comes a time in every guy's life when he's no longer interested in beer parties, video games, and phrases like "getting laid." In short, a man becomes a man, which is why you should see what an older guy is all about. It's not because he could be a sugardaddy and shower you with gifts. The real perk of dating an older guy is his worldliness and wisdom, which is bound to rub off on you. Because he's had more life experience and has been through more than younger guys, he can play something of a teacher role.
#2 The starving artist
These dudes are not going to take you to fancy restaurants or even pay your half of the dinner bill. Money, nice meals, and material goods don't mean squat to this guy--and that's exactly why you'll have an incredible time once he opens your eyes to life's simple pleasures.
#3 The metrosexual
He may be better dressed and more recently manicured than you. Not only will you reap the obvious benefits of dating a guy like this (by being able to borrow his expensive shampoos), but you'll get a chance to live a happenin' life. These guys will take you to the hottest clubs and the coolest clothing stores. His style may well rub off on you, making you a stronger player on the social and professional fields.
#4 The bad boy
This rebel lives on his own terms and is not about to apologize for them. Hang with him for a while, and you'll learn why being bad can feel so good and how to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. By being with him, you can learn to look deep inside yourself for what's truly important, rather than just accepting what your parents or friends think is the proper path for you.
#5 The nice guy
He never makes you feel insecure or uncertain, never plays hard to get, never makes you doubt how he feels about you. A woman won't be used to the frequency and consistency of affection nice guys give, since most other guys who are playing the dating game don't do that. Once you've had the good stuff (a guy who calls when he says he will; a guy who wants to see you more as he gets to know you), you won't stand for anything less. But just because a guy is nice doesn't necessarily mean that he is Mr. Right. There has to be romantic chemistry, too.
OK, which of the five guy types do I most resemble? Any thoughts, girls? ¶ 7:58 PM
