Seeing a Person's Heart 見 人 心 One of my favorite Chinese sayings is 路 遙 知 馬 力, 日 久 見 人 心 lou6 yiu4 ji1 ma2 lik6, yat6 gau2 gin3 yan4 sam1. It translates as follows: It takes a long road to find out a horse’s strength, and it takes a long time to see a person’s heart. This saying is very true. If you know a person long enough, his or her real character eventually will come out. This can be positive or negative, depending upon whether the person shows a good side or bad side. In my life, I usually think of this saying when something bad happens--when someone deceives me, lies to me, or disappoints me. Even though I know that people can change over time, it doesn’t make it any easier to accept the truth. When someone who you thought was your friend, lover, or confidant turns out to be untrue or unreliable, it hurts! This is one thing that most depresses me about life.  ¶ 7:50 PM